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It exceeded expectations. Went there expecting a chicflick, and of course there was the whole whirlwind romance thing.

 

 

But I was honestly moved when the movie let in on the frustrations of people who suffer from Parkinson’s (I wouldn’t call them patients because they’re stronger than I am), and I pictured myself as one of them and wondered if I would have been strong enough to stand up to the illness should I contract it, or any other sickness for the matter.

 

Storylines like these are found pretty often in shows, such that we might get numbed because they have been so commericialized; guy and girl in love, one finds out that the other’s terminally ill, what happens?

And normally, it’s the I’ll-always-be-by-your-side, I’m-forever-loving-you or Marry-her-on-the-hospital-bed-and-then-she-dies thing. But life after the death of a loved one in such films or dramas are either depicted in a single fleeting moment where in that instant the partner left behind seems miraculously self-controlled with silent tears and amazing depth for acceptance that his/her partner’s gone forever or they such scenes are completely jumped? Or they meet someone new and fall in love but like tattoo the name of his/her first love who’s now gone on whichever part of his body.

It doesn’t take first-hand experience to reason that it’s not as easy as how the movies make it to be, so I really appreciated it when Love and Other Drugs had a scene depicting this elderly guy who had a wife with Parkinson’s for years telling Jake that you know, he loves his wife but if he had to do this whole marriage thing with her again, he wouldn’t. it took away the love, the sex, robbed him of the moments, the magic. And then I wonder (yes I always wonder), what would my stand be? If I fell terminally ill, would I be selfish enough to want my partner to stand by, even if he wanted to? And then I start jogging to lead a healthier lifestyle, and stay way from bubble tea for just that while. haha.

Asides from all that, the other theme I picked out was loving the misunderstood/the underdog/the others. Okay my theory might sound really weird, but there are people who are more attractive in the mainstream manner, and those who are attractive in the not-so-conventional-manner. Anne Hathaway obviously has all the good looks, but in the movie she plays the ill yet refreshingly normal woman who’s hard to understand, who’s more than just that bit woman when she gets too crazy too many times, who’s always putting on a strong front, who’s always doing all the wrong stuff and walks on the edgier side of life and who doesn’t actually have a normal life and is also a little dark and very private. Jake on the other hand is a popular dude, who’s an awesome salesman, loves meeting people, and has tonnes of female friends, who celebrates life with a come-what-may. They are opposites, they might not always understand each other, they don’t share a normal relationship, it’s in the words unspoken (you’ll have to watch it to understand), but somehow they have this eclectic connection. It remind me of two people I know.. and people are always curious about this whole are you guys serious thing. People don’t understand, but yes they’re together alright. I’ve come quite a while in life to understand that honestly no one’s happiness matter more than your loved ones and you.

And one last, all that talk about finding your fashion identity, I love the way Anne Hathway dresses in awesome vintage pieces in the show, but I know I’ll never be able to carry all that off.

they look awesome together, eh?

Been watching gossip girl like ALOT lately, and I love love love the way Serena vdw dresses in the show. It’s SO effortless, she makes my clothes cry. (I think I mentioned this before.. Blair’s style is deliciously pretty and girly but something I know I’ll never see myself in, not that it’s a huge fall from Serena.)

Attended a close friend’s wedding recently, and she turned out awesome in a greekgoddesslike evening dress, which was shimmering diamente and a royal luscious ravishing purple Okay but the point was the wedding! Haha! Three of us had cake, bird’s nest and some juice at my house, just a little get-together near midnight, before the day of her wedding. So much fun reminiscing, so much fun thinking of what life’s gonna be for her. I can’t believe this girl I grew up with hit the altars. and she’s younger than i am!?

I’m already planning for the next move,you know, in life. Like further my studies overseas or open a zoo or something. Sometimes I feel like I’m not using my brains enough. Or this one doesn’t allow me to, and yes, I actually have brains so I had better use them before they deteriorate.

Miss mom and dad.

 

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